You need to design the player yourself (or find a player).  Look at what they have at yobt.tv and try to do something like that.  I think you can do Flash right- you may have to talk to smartscript (Joe)?  yobt uses an XML file to get the thumbnails and it simply updates the thumbnail strip as the video plays.  Flash does include a bunch of video templates.

ClipBucket looks the same as phpMotion and both don't do the same thing as what yobt does with the thumbnails.  You don't [i:1f0d2ac7ff]need[/i:1f0d2ac7ff] PHP or MySQL to get a player to work.  It can be helpful having PHP, ffmpeg etc... automate some of the process.

How much bandwith are you allowed to use?  Or is it the content of the video that's against the TOS of your website?  If you can't host it off your website you can create a HTML file then place the player, thumbnails, video file and HTML file in a zip and have people play it locally from the HTML file.  Upload the zip to http://drop.io or something.  Do you know how to convert videos to FLV?  How many videos do you plan on uploading?